What is Domestic Abuse
The Government definition of domestic violence and abuse is:
'Any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are or have been intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality.
This can encompass, but is not limited to, the following types of abuse:
|psychological||physical||sexual||online or digital violence|
|financial||emotional||harassment and stalking|
Controlling behaviour is a range of acts designed to make a person subordinate and/or dependent by:
- isolating them from sources of support,
- exploiting their resources and capacities for personal gain,
- depriving them of the means needed for independence, resistance and escape
- regulating their everyday behaviour.
Coercive behaviour is that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim with an act or a pattern of acts of:
- humiliation and intimidation,
- or other abuse
There is a lot of help and support available if you are suffering domestic abuse - do not suffer, seek help.
In an emergency always dial 999
Use the 'silent solution' if your circumstances mean you're afraid to make a noise. You may be asked to cough or tap the keys on your phone in response to questions.
You can cover your tracks online if you are scared your abuser will see you have visited certain pages. You can switch your browser to 'private' or 'incognito' mode, which means it does not log the details of your website visits. Otherwise, you can delete both the history of visited websites and the temporary internet files from your computer.
From 14th January 2021 the codeword scheme Ask for ANI will offer a lifeline to all victims, ensuring they get urgent help in a safe and discreet way. Trained pharmacy workers in chemists will offer a private space where they can understand if the victim needs to speak to the police or would like help to access support services.
The national Ask for Angela campaign was introduced by the Met Police in October 2016 and is now nationwide. If you are in a bar or pub, go to the bar and ask for 'Angela'. The bar staff should know you need help getting out of your situation and will call you taxi or help you out discreetly without too much fuss.
Please do not hesitate to speak to any member of our team and we will assist you to get help and advice.
Alternatively, there are lots of organisations who can assist. Below is a comprehensive, but not exhaustive list.
For local based help.
Wiiltshire Single Point of Access (SPA) Team
Phone: 01225 775276 - Monday - Friday 8.00am - 5.00pm
Wiltshire out of hours helpline: 01793 610610 (5.00pm - 8.00am Monday - Friday and 24hrs at the weekend)
Swindon Domestic Abuse Support Service
Supporting male and female victims
Phone: 24 hour helpline - 01793 610610
Swindon & Wiltshire Sexual Assault Referral Centre (SARC)
The Swindon & Wiltshire Sexual Assault Referral Centre is the first point of contact for people who have experienced rape and sexual assault. The SARC is a safe place which provides confidential practical and emotional support to anyone impacted by rape and serious sexual assault.
Phone: 01793 781916
Somerset Integrated Domestic Abuse Services (SIDAS)
Single point of contact for confidential advice and support to any person concerned about domestic abuse in the Avon and Somerset area.
Phone: 0800 694 9999
National help available:
National Domestic Violence Helpline
Free and confidential 24 hour helpline run by Women's Aid and Refuge. The helpline is a member of Language Line and can provide access to an interpreter for non-English speaking callers. The helpline can also access the BT Type Talk Service for deaf callers.
Phone: 0808 2000 247
This helpline will take calls from children & young people
Phone: 0800 1111 (24 hour freephone) (Childline)
Website: www.thehideout.org.uk run by Woman's Aid.
Men's Advice Line and Enquiries
MALE is a Home Office supported advice and support service for men in abusive relationships.
Phone: 0808 8010 327
Support for LGBT+
Phone: 0800 999 5428
Action on Elder Abuse
Phone: 0808 808 3141
The Honour Network (Karma Nirvana)
For victims of honour-based violence
Phone: 0800 599 9247
Female Genital Mutilation (NSPCC)
Phone: 0808 800 8000
Forced Marriage Campaign
Phone: 0845 607 0133
Southall Black Sisters
For Asian and African Caribbean women experiencing domestic abuse
Phone: 020 8571 9595
If you are the perpetrator/abuser and want to change your behaviour, you can - with help. To talk to somone who can help, contact:
The national association for domestic violence perpetrator programmes and associated support services.
Phone: Respect on 0808 802 4040
SIDAS Perpetrator Programme on 0800 694 9999 Somerset Integrated Domestic Abuse Service (SIDAS) offers a voluntary, behavioural change group work programme,